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Personal Sustainability = Global Sustainability


Last weekend I attended an “Awakening the Dreamer” Symposium. To say I walked out of there feeling hopeful and inspired is an understatement. I was deeply and profoundly moved and re-motivated to keep on talking and writing whenever and where ever I get a chance. The symposium focused around the ideas and information available on the subject of life sustainability on this planet.The question was posed, obviously, “what are you going to do about it?”

There are fortunately great people with great minds doing great things in our world, looking after us all, trying to shift mountains to re-create a sustainable world. People are asking me plaintively “but what can I do?” Well you can recycle, reduce, reuse, in fact we must all do these things, but we already know this and do this on some level. To truly create a sustainable world we must feel the personal value for it. Most of us live reasonably comfortable lives but then again we are not one of the 55% of plants and animals species currently facing extinction. In the past 30 years, 1/3 of the total number of mammals, reptiles, birds, fish and amphibians living in the world have been lost primarily to loss of habitat and changes in their eco-environments. It is a very human trait to not see any problems until they start to happen within the walls of your own home. Unfortunately we can’t wait for that to happen. We have to make different choices now. It is time to grasp that if we want a sustainable future for our earth we must create one within our own psyche. We must come into an understanding that a sustainable future lies with an attitude of personal sustainability.

The accepted definition for environmental sustainability is that the needs of the present are met without compromising the ability of future generations to meet their needs. The definition implies an attitude of stewardship for our earth for future generations. In order for this to become a feasible reality we need to shift our own attitudes for personal sustainability. We need to become more aware of the spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical legacy we are endowing to our children. What habits are we teaching, what are they learning from us? Do they have faith, hope, joy, confidence in their future?

It all comes down to our own attitude in life. Every day I see people feeling hurt, undermined and disrespected. They speak in negative terms, without hope and without vision. They conduct their lives in a negligent, derisive and irresponsible manner. They hoard, withhold and lock away their stuff, reluctant to share and be generous. Consumerism, gluttony and indulgence of every description are leading to the erosion of life as we know it, on a physical level as well as on a spiritual level.

So how do you cultivate an attitude of sustainability?

i) be grateful: expressing and feeling gratitude allows one to become open to new opportunities for happiness.

ii) express yourself in positive terms: avoid negative words, slants, criticisms, judgments, and excuses. Before very long you will find yourself focusing on all that you can do instead of all you can’t do.

iii) realize that you are enough just as you are: excessive consumerism, gluttony and indulgence are signs that you think there isn’t enough in this world for you and that you aren’t enough. Assess your needs and wants. What do you really desire in  life – is it really more stuff? Do what makes you happy, whatever it is, but be aware of your excessive consumption for things that mean nothing to you and just suck up your resources, ie. money, energy, health, time etc. As you deplete yourself you deplete the world around you.

iv) become fully accountable for yourself and come to realize that you are not alone: all of your actions, words, thoughts have consequences, nothing goes unnoticed. Everything you do matters to the whole – always. Separation is an illusion. There is no us and them. There is only us. We are all joined in consciousness, all connected in our holiness. We have one future; we either survive together or we perish together. My children’s lives and future depend on your actions as do your children on mine.

v) respect one another regardless of race, creed or culture. Diversity is the key to survival. We will never survive as clones of each other. Our diversity will ensure our growth, development and ever budding potential.

It is our collective ignorance that allows the raping of the earth to continue. Eventually we won’t be able to move away from the devastation, we won’t be able to ignore what is happening all around us as it encroaches ever closer to our own homes and into our lifestyles by then however it will be too late to create a change that will allow us to survive. Sustainable living begins with a sustainable attitude; and that begins with you.

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Let’s Build an Enlightened Dream!


I’ve been getting a lot of emails to join prayer groups for the healing of the oceans, the forests, the earth; and just when it seems to me that people are starting to actually wake up, I get other emails that say ‘the gods are angry’, ‘the earth is angry’, ‘these catastrophes are happening in areas where people have been evil for too long and god is teaching a lesson’. They reek of judgment, fear, and projection. If we want to help our earth and ourselves people it’s time wake up and get real! These mind-boggling catastrophes are caused by human error, negligent practices, unbridled greed and lack of foresight. The earth changes are part of the earth’s journey through the stars. There is no mystery. The earth is not angry (though I wouldn’t blame her) and the gods? Well… no comment!

Let’s try to look at things a little differently. We’ve been asleep, not because we haven’t been serious about the escalating level of crisis in our world, but in the ways we have been dealing with all these issues. We blame, we hate, we rage, we sign petitions, we engage in war. We’re expressing powerful emotions of anger that aren’t doing anything except perpetuating more powerful expressions of anger, fear and rage and sadly killing millions of species of life on our planet every minute in the process. The global fear and outrage is part of the nightmare we currently find ourselves in. Remember like begets like.

So wake up!! The nightmare can still end, it must or we will all be trapped in it. It’s imperative that we learn to focus all our collective energy towards the dream we have for ourselves and our children.

The clock is ticking and we are quickly approaching the end of a massive time cycle. This is a natural course of events, nothing unusual at all. We have already gone through 4 of these 5,125 year cycles, we are currently ending the 5th and heading into the 6th. It is part of what is known as the “precession of the equinoxes”. It is the journey Earth traveling through the heavens as marked by the placement of the constellations of the zodiac. We are leaving the Piscean Age and beginning the Aquarian Age. Each age is marked by a key development which had significant influence over that time. The Piscean age was marked by the event of Christianity and has 2 fishes facing opposite directions as it’s symbol. It’s been an age of dualism, opposites, ownership and conquering. The Aquarian age however, is an age of oneness, unity and holism. And this clearly presents the task ahead of us now.

We can no longer assign blame and point fingers for the problems at hand. What happens to one, happens to all. We are one mind, one consciousness and we have one future. We need now to get together and practice patience, tolerance, respect, love and acceptance. The possibility to heal our world lies within our ability to heal ourselves and ultimately, how well we will be able to release ourselves from fear and the limiting, debilitating effects it has over our free thinking minds and henceforth our ability to solve problems.

As our Earth travels its elliptical path around the sun and now reaches its furthest point away from the center of its orbit, the magnetic pull on the earth is at its weakest creating a wobble in its axis. The earth has been steadily shifting on its axis and it is being predicted that a complete polar magnetic flip may happen. All these planetary changes seem to mirror the madness happening to the people on earth. Wobbly intentions, lack of direction and commitment, lack of meaningful relationships.

People…it is time to dig our feet into the soil and get grounded, make a strong commitment to Earth and life on earth, and start developing a focused relationship based in  love and compassion for one another, all life, and the earth. We are one. Don’t Pray for the earth as though you are worried for her survival,  your own life and the life of your children, pray instead by communicating and holding glorious visions of beauty, health, wisdom, balance, peace, light and faith in her and our potential. In love there is the possibility for new understanding and true problem solving. When fear and blame are abolished solutions can arise that were previously hidden. Only then can we hope for a new light filled beginning. The solutions for a new world rest in your hands, in the visions you hold in your mind, and the love that is born of your heart.

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Eye on the Future


My father died almost 6 years ago. It’s hard to remember this. His presence is still very strong. Every day I see remnants of his being growing in new ways through the legacy of family he left behind him. His son becomes more like him every day, his 5 grandsons, each in their own way, exhibit some random piece of him without any awareness of it having been present 2 generations previous to them. His 7 grand-daughters will spontaneously recall an experience with him, a story, a joke or a lesson that they share whenever possible. Every time you meet a member of our family you meet my Dad. His influence was strong in life and still flavors each of our lives. And so life continues. Aboriginal tribes know this. We are influenced by 7 generations behind us and continue to influence 7 generations before us.

With this awareness we feel a special onus to behave responsibly because we know that everything we think and do affects the future. It’s important that we recall the roots from whence we sprang. History must not be repeated. We must learn to consciously cultivate, nurture and grow the best of who we are and compost the rest, mulching it back into the soil of our consciousness to allow better future growth. Come to understand the person you are today, bearing in mind what you have learned from your forefathers. You are not a lone isolated being. You come through a family tree, your roots run deep. There are inherent traits, strengths and weaknesses with which you have to work. Come to know what they are that you may utilize them to their maximum potential. Evolving consciousness depends on what we each bring forward from our own family roots. We can blindly repeat, and make the same mistakes, or we can learn, make new better choices, fostering the best.

In the art of Bonsai, the external nature of the tree is altered to conform to extreme conditions and inherent species strengths and potential. Roots are ruthlessly clipped back, keeping only what is important and necessary for continued growth, branches are manipulated into unnatural positions of maximum flexibility, and foliage is pruned and forced to a new diminutive expression of perfection. No human being can be made to conform to these extremes, for generations though, our governments and militia have tried. There is a certain strength that comes with surviving conformity, rules and extreme conditions but in the end we strive to be ourselves. In the end, what we believe in the most of ourselves will dictate our futures.

When the Bonsai is left once again to its own nature, even after decades of shaping and molding, it will attempt to revert back to its own genetic DNA patterning. As the internal natural wisdom tries to reveal itself once again it risks it’s life. Some make it, some don’t. As we struggle to free our selves from outside dogmas and rules and conventional structures of recognized power – some of us will make it and some of us won’t. It is imperative that you come to understand and love the truest nature of yourself as we move into the ending years of this cycle we are in before we head into the new cycle.

My Dad mastered the Art of Bonsai, leaving approximately 40 of them for the rest of us to try to keep nurturing along. Some have made it, most haven’t. When I look upon his creations I remember him; his spirit, his vision, and how his heart would not conform. He lived his whole 69 years trying to live free, thinking for himself and questing into every possibility of himself.

Not many (if any) of his little trees will survive the next 7 generations – but my Dad will!

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Wheels of Change


The cosmic wheels of change are turning. Of course they do every day for many people, but there are times when the really big wheels turn for many, many people all at once. These are times of transition for the masses. I know when these times are because personally I get really quiet and still. I shift in to waiting, watching and listening mode. I also know when we are in these times because I start seeing people going through the same issues at the same time, they say the same things to me, their stories are eerily similar even though the people themselves often feel isolated and alone in their pain. The other sign post that tells me that we are in one of these big transitions is that I have an overwhelming need to sit in my garden, touch the earth and be immersed in Nature’s order and harmony.

So I’ve been sitting there amongst my hostas, day lillies and herbs listening to the wheels of change turning. Actually, to put it a little more accurately, lately it’s been the sound of wheels grinding to a halt. I’m hearing stories of people wanting to make some significant change but stepping back into their reliable – even if painful – routines. Afraid. Confused. Depressed. Avoiding making any change, fearful of making the wrong changes. Fair enough, but it is a dodge, stall and hedge tactic. And the soul knows it and feels deeply unhappy. I feel compelled to remind folks to breathe deeply and keep it simple.

It seems to be our way to confuse issues, adding in too many considerations, too many responsibilities. Bottom line, there are 2 ways to make change just as there are 2 ways  to live your life. You can choose to fight your way through, dealing with obstacle after obstacle, resistance after resistance or rather choose to shift along peacefully, rightfully, respectfully and in good timing. One way is really hard and one isn’t. In the first way you are pushing the river, in the other you are going with the flow. In the first way you are in a survival based mode, fight or flight, strategies and manipulations, the other is harmony based, right time, right place, present in the moment with vision for the highest good of all.

It can be difficult to shift from a reactive to a proactive way of being. We are conditioned to believe that it is easier to change things from a reactive stance in that we wait for the situation to unfold before us and simply respond to it. From a reactive position we know very clearly what is expected of us, and we simply have to respond accordingly. It also gives us a way out and the opportunity to shirk responsibility with statements like “what could I do?” or “I had no choice”. Everyone gets it because everyone’s been there. But it’s miserable all the same. You feel disempowered, cheated and diminished. In a proactive situation you make choices before you’re painted into a corner. You decide ahead of the demands, choosing an option that is more aligned with your own intention and thus your own happiness.

You’ll find it easier to manage through difficult times if you just wait patiently and quietly for the right moment, when the force of the universe is behind you to steadily and consistently make the changes you need to be making. Life after all, is all about making choices and changes. The more you resist change the more difficult life will get. You’ll recognize the right time when you feel gratitude and respect and happiness oozing up through the muck.

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Cultivating a High Tolerance for Happiness


A friend and I were discussing yesterday how attached humanity is to living life through the relative experience of pain. Our culture is full of euphemisms that reflect this idea. “No pain, no gain”, “The straw that broke the camel’s back”, “We wouldn’t recognize the good without the bad”, “Good things come to those who wait”, “survival of the fittest”. There is an unspoken heroism built into identification with suffering that needs to be abolished from our consciousness if we ever want to experience evolvement into love and freedom. We have come to equate a high pain tolerance with being brave and strong.
Quantum mechanics have proven that we are only able to focus on one thing at a time. There is only one reality that exists with certainty and that is determined by where we put our focus. The magical beauty of our world is that we each have the right and responsibility to create our own reality that serves our needs and intertwines with others’ realities as it further serves the whole. In metaphysics we come to understand that where attention goes energy flows and that where energy flows  – that’s what grows. When we continuously turn our focus and attention to what is painful in our lives we further stimulate and encourage the growth of pain, not freedom from it. When we consistently push our buttons to stimulate a painful response and reaction we create the tolerance for pain in the present moment. When we continuously relive past hurts and transgressions we bring them to life in the now. When we engage in repetitive painful emotions and situations we foster the growth of more of the same. Pain begets pain. Like attracts likes.
So many people are waiting for the last straw before they feel they would be able to make the changes they need to make. There is no successful ending possible to this story line. This ‘last straw’ scenario is actually a training program for enduring more pain. In weight training or resistance training you learn how to create strength in your body by adding incremental amounts of weight that you learn to counter balance. In time you become stronger, being able to resist more and more burden. In our day-to-day life the more pain and abuse we learn to live with the stronger we become in carrying and surviving it, and the less willing we become in changing it. We lose our natural bearings. By the time the proverbial last straw is placed we are already damaged. The healing from a ‘broken back’ is very difficult and requires significant time and a mountain of physiotherapy.  The damage created in the last straw situation won’t be healed just by walking away from the problem, in fact, you won’t be able to walk away at all, you will crawl away all broken and twisted.
The only way to heal pain is to not tolerate it; by not giving space to pain we won’t allow it to control one more minute of our lives. Pain is actually a powerful efficient teacher for when we’ve gone too far in the wrong direction. Pain should indicate that a change is needed. We must make a pledge to ourselves to live with happiness and love, not anger or resentment, not sadness and grief. We must vow to do what ever we can to step towards joy and freedom and not drag the heavy burdens of yesterday’s pain into our future. Never engage in any task unless you can find the way to do so happily. Never commit to any deed unless can do it with full heartedness.
Please don’t wait for the last straw, shake off your burden of pain today, learn to feel the weight of a single stem of straw, learn to act on your best behalf. Don’t settle for relative happiness; believe in experiencing bliss. No good comes out of having a high pain tolerance, only more pain. Build your pride instead on having a zero pain tolerance and start cultivating the growth of a high joy tolerance instead!

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The Restoration of Gratitude – It’ll just take a moment!


I woke this morning with a feeling of being blessed. The sun was shining, the birds were singing, the temperature with my bedroom window wide open was perfect. I had spent a great evening sitting outside until almost midnight chatting with a dear friend that I hadn’t connected with in quite some time. All felt right in my world. I ruminated on our various discussions from the night before.

At one point we talked about gratitude. My friend has experienced so much turmoil and pain in her life and yet that’s not what she wears on her face. Her face shows the world her hope, her acceptance, and her belief in herself and in others. She is remarkably grateful. She is grateful for every kindness, every opportunity, every experience that crosses her path. She takes nothing for granted. Every small thing is a meaningful blessing. Her life is not charmed, things don’t come easy to her. She has worked harder than almost anyone I know at everything she does, she never hides from a challenge and always tackles anything put before her. Every so often life overwhelms her and her edges crumble a little bit, but in the end she is like the stone in the river bed that millions of tons of water has washed over and made smooth. She is willing to be tumbled around a little bit if it enhances her perspective of life. She is willing to hit some other rocks in the river if it means that she will learn something new about herself. And just because she is willing to engage with life, life engages back. She had always stood apart in her innocence.

But something  had changed. She was worried and sad. Fearful of pending changes. Feeling the need to protect herself. I don’t know her this way. She has always lived in the moment, looking for the opportunity, and seeing the good in it. It usually works; but it wasn’t working now. She didn’t know why not. It took me a good long while in the morning light to understand and identify what was different.  Often epiphany comes when we are doing the mundane, when the mind can aimlessly drift about without clinging to intentional pieces. While washing dishes this morning I realized what it was.

In the same moment I realized what had changed, I also knew why it had changed and why I didn’t see it.  In short what had happened was my friend wasn’t being herself, she had become the way the world typically functions. Her language reflected the way the world talks, she was listening to things the way the world listens to things, she was behaving the way the world normally behaves. And because she wasn’t living intuitively as she normally does, she became lost. I didn’t catch it because she was being normal, as in the same as everyone else. She wasn’t standing alone in her light, she had mentally, emotionally joined the common way of a world immersed in fear.

She had begun to worry about the future. She was fearing the potential loss of her great love. She had become attached to potential failure. She began to anticipate the worst and was looking for the clues in the moment, in order to protect herself for the future. She stopped living in the moment and started living for the future. She was living suspiciously, second guessing, doubting her senses, listening to the onslaught of negativity that spews so abundantly from the minds and mouths of mass population, media and government. She was a like fish out of water.

I see so many people afraid of engaging with life fully because they are afraid of the pain that seems imminent. We are so preoccupied with living the promised fairy tale happy ever afters that we end up judging our lives negatively in comparison. We worry, we anger, we shrink and shirk and blame, we judge, anything to try to separate us from the world around us that we see causing so much pain and failure. Unfortunately by doing so we become part of that darkness that squelches out the possibility of a better way.  My friend had stepped out of her light filled innocence into the shadowy norm and it didn’t fit well. Trying to squeeze all that light and hope into a limited, typical, too small dark box was hurting her. Her compass became disoriented, she didn’t know where or who she was anymore. And worse still she couldn’t find the way out, her re-course became to isolate. That alone broke her heart.

In the end she re-committed herself to seeing the good, looking for the silver lining, and counting her blessings in every moment. In the end she went home grateful for the life she is blessed to have. She’s the bravest soul I know! Are you brave enough to stand in your light? Alone if need be?

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Retrieving My Soul Day by Day


There are times when I have become aware of not working with my whole mind. When I have responded to a grown up situation in a childish way, when I have been paralyzed in fear in a situation that others waltz through, when I have ached with longing to be understood and appreciated, when I have felt fragmented and disoriented and couldn’t respond to situations in a logical rational way, I knew that in those moments I was functioning from an incomplete understanding of myself. In healing lingo we call it soul loss, soul fragmentation, loss of power.

A soul fragments when it is faced with grave danger and isn’t equipped to handle the situation. A part of the memory shuts down, encapsulating the experience and tucking it away out of consciousness where it, hopefully, won’t ever be disturbed. But universe has an intelligence that far surpasses our own little fearful minds and will present us with a multitude of opportunities to revisit old scary places where we will potentially reclaim back our little lost bits. Universal goal seems to be that we live as whole human beings, with all our memories and issues in tact. Yuck! Sometimes it feels way easier to just leave sleeping dogs lie!

Claiming back our power isn’t about riding rough shod over someone else or even about feeling powerful. It’s about experiencing wholeness. Everyday we engage in power negotiations. It’s a normal part of the deal in our human way to negotiate space, placement and value. Sometimes we feel solidly ourselves – sometimes we feel hopelessly fragmented. When we repeatedly fail to defend ourselves, when we fail to stand up for what we know is right, when we feel a herd of buffalo stampeding through our guts at the mere thought of facing a situation or person we know that we’ve touched a place within that is weak and feels powerless. We all go through this experience from time to time. This is part of the journey of life. The purpose is to find our strength and free will to make a new choice, the glorified experience of being human.

I want you to remember a couple of things:

i) you are complete as you are. you have everything you need to go through anything that will happen in your life. Your entire life is a soul retrieval. You choose situations that allow you to feel more and more of yourself and your reactions. Every time you hit your fear and survive it, you have retrieved another piece of your soul. Every time you take an evasive action and try to avoid a situation you let the fear win. Every time you realize success over even the smallest challenges you have reclaimed your power.

ii) It’s your choice. You can avoid dealing with an issue as long as you like. But having said that I will ask you to bear in mind that it is the law of attraction that keeps putting you face to face with an issue which indicates that you are more ready to deal with something that you think. Repeatedly denying to face something puts you in the vibration of resistance which will in turn cause you pain and discomfort mentally, emotionally and physically.

Trust your soul energy. Your personal spirit is truly in communication with universal spirit to guide you towards your next moment of healing and empowerment. These moments of healing generally lead us to reclaim our lost pieces of power. When the opportunity arises trust that part of you knows best and you are indeed ready to retrieve a piece of your soul, day by day.

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Hunkering Down in Big Winds of Change


Wow. This wind makes me nuts.

I had half a dozen phone calls from people this morning complaining of feeling strangely unsettled and unable to focus. They didn’t think to connect their feelings with the energy of the wind.

There are certain winds that make me crazy. What we’ve got blowing through Ontario today is one of the worst for me. I get feeling edgy, antsy, and nervous. My thoughts flit about in my head and my teeth chatter. My finger tips and toes freeze no matter how warm the wind or day actually is and my spine feels cold and stressed. So here I am hunkering down in my Reiki room trying to stay out of the direct path of the wind. All gardening plans for me today are gone!

I’m tucked safely inside, sheltered completely from the wind and yet I can still feel it. The energy of it can’t be stopped. And as uncomfortable as I am, I am also grateful. I know that when the big winds blow there are big changes afoot. And that’s a good thing! You can’t have growth without clearing away the old energy. The wind, like the other elements are extremely useful for shifting possibility. The wind is the element of air in action, air represents our minds, our thinking, our thoughts. Windy air whistling through our brains clears our thoughts, changes our attachments, brings us to new perspectives.

The best thing to do when the wind is whipping you around is to get grounded, breathe really deeply, and try not to catch the thoughts as they blow around in your brain. Let them be until the wind stops. Trying to anchor down plans, pin down ideas, or capture thoughts during the big winds is like trying to catch Dandelion seeds before they land and take root. Seize the opportunity to kiss goodbye to things that no longer serve you and let them blow right out of your life. When the mind isn’t attached to ideas amazing things can happen. When the wind finally stops you’ll find that what bothered you before has less hold on you. You’ll be refreshed with new ideas and hopeful for the future.

The wind can also blow some energy into something you want to fire up; something (someone) you feel passion for – but be careful, you’re liable to burn down the whole neighborhood!

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The Perils of Fence Sitting


There are days when I would just love to run around pushing people off the fences they’re sitting on! I’m not really a nasty person, I just see that life would be better for people  – no matter how hard – if they would simply say what’s on their mind! It’s kinda’ the same as pulling a band-aid off quickly!

I strongly believe that you can’t tell people what to do for a couple of reasons. i) they don’t like it and ii) I don’t have the right to. I’m not saying my life is perfect, and for sure it’s easier to spot a fence sitter than to always know when you’re on one yourself, but really…sometimes you just got to wonder what people are waiting for! I hear people say: “I’m just not ready to make a decision yet.”

Yeah right! The longer you sit the harder it gets, trust me, been there done that! The longer you sit there doing nothing, the more disoriented you become. Eventually you don’t even know what you really feel! Never mind what you really want to say! And forget about knowing what to do!

Sometimes it is so painfully obvious what needs to be done and yet people insist on sitting on their fence, vacillating, wobbling, pondering, ignoring, and sometimes just waiting. People actually develop back pain and other health issues from trying to maintain their balance while trying not to commit to one way or another. They become so preoccupied in trying to not fall off the fence that they lose sight of the decision they really have to make. Seasons come and go and people sit there like some kind of garden ornament.

There is really only one good reason to sit on a fence; to get a better vantage point. Sometimes raising yourself above a situation that you are mired in will create enough of a shift in perspective to make a decision. Unfortunately, though, once we’re out of the situation and removed from the emotional and mental duress of it we can choose to sit and rest for a while. We just have to be careful that the rest stop doesn’t become a place of refuge, because that’s when the real trouble starts! You can actually build a whole other life sitting on top your fence. And although it looks real, feels real, and sounds real – it isn’t!

You will not be allowed to stay on the fence without consequences. Universal consciousness hates fence sitters, and will test your fence-sitting skills by throwing a couple or ten balls at you that you have to keep juggling to keep up in the air while you’re trying to sit there. And if that doesn’t work, and you somehow manage to still not make a decision to get off your fence and back into the real game, you’ll soon notice the weather getting a little stormy. Illness, emotional upheaval, weight gain or loss, depression, financial issues and other losses will start to affect your balance. Universal consciousness is built by people making choices. Permanent fence-sitting can not be tolerated in an ever-growing, expanding universe. New growth and expansion doesn’t happen easily on a fence. When we don’t make choices we end up getting really confused. Eventually, like it or not you will lose your balance and fall off your fence. A decision will be made…with or without you.

I urge you to get off your fence voluntarily. Speak up! Say what’s on your mind! Don’t be afraid to ruffle some feathers and make some waves. Committing to a decision is way better than not. You can always change your mind. The universe is an endless source of opportunity and new beginnings. Climbing or jumping off your fence voluntarily is a lot easier on the ole’ body than being shoved off and causes way less damage!

Honest!!

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Living Without Excuses; Dare to Be YOU!


I realized one day that the people I admire the most are the ones that live their lives without excuses. They are respectful,     positive minded, energetic, kind people and the reason is simple; they aren’t trying to prove anything to anyone. They know who they are and they just go about living their lives doing what they do.

It is ingrained in us to look and ask for approval. As children we learn that good behavior is rewarded with praise of some sort and it feels better than being criticized. We also learn that one easy trick to avoiding criticism is to make up a story that seemingly excuses our actions. As we grow we not only become adept at making excuses to others and ourselves but also come to expect and accept them in our daily dealings with others. We become unaccountable for our thoughts and actions, in effect leading double lives.

A few years ago I saw Marianne Williamson speak. She’s a powerful speaker with a strong belief in her message. She spoke on her book “A Return to Love”. Often when speakers talk about love and peace they approach the subject with a sugar-coated countenance. Not Ms. Williamson! She delivered all the passion, power, determination and strength that I know love delivers to my heart. She never once apologized for her beliefs or her commitments. She stood up for herself and made herself accountable for her message and accountable in her life.

Most of the people I see as clients have lost their compass in life. They don’t know how to step forward, confused in their own minds they are often afraid of hurting others and stepping on other peoples’ toes. In trying to establish value in their lives they do more and more for others, further compromising themselves with every step they take. Eventually because they have allowed so many others to take up precious space in their minds they find themselves crowded to death with no room left to move. Unable to make their own choices without stepping on someone else’s toes they start apologizing for offending, for hurting, for questioning, even for being themselves. Depression is the only end result as we slowly come to realize that we are in danger of losing our selves.

We need to each claim ourselves back from the land of the excuses. Live boldly. Feel your own two legs under you and see them marching to the beat of your own drum. We each came here to live our own lives, our own way, in our own rhythm, so don’t make excuses for your life choices. Just live your life bravely with intention. Dare to be you!

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