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Wheels of Change

The cosmic wheels of change are turning. Of course they do every day for many people, but there are times when the really big wheels turn for many, many people all at once. These are times of transition for the masses. I know when these times are because personally I get really quiet and still. I shift in to waiting, watching and listening mode. I also know when we are in these times because I start seeing people going through the same issues at the same time, they say the same things to me, their stories are eerily similar even though the people themselves often feel isolated and alone in their pain. The other sign post that tells me that we are in one of these big transitions is that I have an overwhelming need to sit in my garden, touch the earth and be immersed in Nature’s order and harmony.

So I’ve been sitting there amongst my hostas, day lillies and herbs listening to the wheels of change turning. Actually, to put it a little more accurately, lately it’s been the sound of wheels grinding to a halt. I’m hearing stories of people wanting to make some significant change but stepping back into their reliable – even if painful – routines. Afraid. Confused. Depressed. Avoiding making any change, fearful of making the wrong changes. Fair enough, but it is a dodge, stall and hedge tactic. And the soul knows it and feels deeply unhappy. I feel compelled to remind folks to breathe deeply and keep it simple.

It seems to be our way to confuse issues, adding in too many considerations, too many responsibilities. Bottom line, there are 2 ways to make change just as there are 2 ways  to live your life. You can choose to fight your way through, dealing with obstacle after obstacle, resistance after resistance or rather choose to shift along peacefully, rightfully, respectfully and in good timing. One way is really hard and one isn’t. In the first way you are pushing the river, in the other you are going with the flow. In the first way you are in a survival based mode, fight or flight, strategies and manipulations, the other is harmony based, right time, right place, present in the moment with vision for the highest good of all.

It can be difficult to shift from a reactive to a proactive way of being. We are conditioned to believe that it is easier to change things from a reactive stance in that we wait for the situation to unfold before us and simply respond to it. From a reactive position we know very clearly what is expected of us, and we simply have to respond accordingly. It also gives us a way out and the opportunity to shirk responsibility with statements like “what could I do?” or “I had no choice”. Everyone gets it because everyone’s been there. But it’s miserable all the same. You feel disempowered, cheated and diminished. In a proactive situation you make choices before you’re painted into a corner. You decide ahead of the demands, choosing an option that is more aligned with your own intention and thus your own happiness.

You’ll find it easier to manage through difficult times if you just wait patiently and quietly for the right moment, when the force of the universe is behind you to steadily and consistently make the changes you need to be making. Life after all, is all about making choices and changes. The more you resist change the more difficult life will get. You’ll recognize the right time when you feel gratitude and respect and happiness oozing up through the muck.


Just Get Out of Your Way!

The people I do tarot card readings for can generally be divided into 2 groups: group 1 wants me to tell them their future, group 2 wants to know what to do about something. They all have questions but the first group is not empowered in their present moment and just wants to hear good things about what is coming along, while the second group feels very empowered in the moment and wants to solve a problem. In the end all people must fall into the second group if they want a future that is different than the life they are presently living. To create a future that is different from the way life looks right here, right now we have to DO something different. We have to create a change.

As anyone who has had a reading by me knows I don’t do readings to tell you your future. I do them…and the only reason I do them, is to help people identify what their strengths and weaknesses are, what their possibilities and challenges are, and mostly to identify their true obstacles. I use the tarot to help people get out of their own way.

About 15 years ago I had a reading from a very gifted psychic who told me that I would do just fine if I could only learn how to stay out of my way. I had been starting to suspect that I was sabotaging myself on a regular basis but I just couldn’t find my way through the madness and I was very stubbornly trying to figure it out all by my self, which really just complicated things off the scale. I decided I needed a new best friend…don’t get me wrong I loved my best friend but she loved me too and there was a mutual non verbal no hurting each other policy in place. I needed to hear some brutal truth now and again. So I bought a deck of tarot cards. I learned to read to myself in the third person so I could be really tough on myself and wouldn’t take it personally ( hey whatever works!) and it worked. I got really good at identifying when I was getting in my way. I even got good at listening and doing what needed doing. Life got better – much, much better.

Most people don’t know when they are standing in their own way. They hate looking at the things they don’t like to see, and so they don’t… and they hate knowing what they don’t want to know and so they don’t! But I have come to realize that when someone is there to support you and tells you that what you are seeing is real, or what you ‘know’ intuitively is true, people can face the most difficult of truths. Once we can face something we are able to create change. And that ‘s why I do what I do. I am very willing to not always be the bearer of good and happy news, I am willing to say the low, down and dirty things. I don’t always like it but I will help you see what is real in your life. I have found that people have amazing resources of strength when they are face to face with what is real, it’s the illusions that we build that are difficult to stand up to. When dealing with illusion we literally feel disoriented, confused and usually immobilized.

Other than showing us the truth of a situation, the tarot will reveal another really key thing to solving our problems; it shows what is most relevant to deal with. So often we tend to focus on the wrong things, blow them out of proportion and then get very busy trying to solve them. But in making mountains out of mole hills we tend to lose our direction and just stay unhappily preoccupied. As we spend our time ineffectively chasing our tails, grumbling about how hard it is to get anywhere, we dig ourselves in deeper and deeper until one day we realize that we are totally exhausted and mired in the muck up to our necks. We also come to bitterly realize that the problem hasn’t changed. The tarot helps us identify what the real issue is  and what the most important thing we can do to get through it. Like it or not.

The other thing I like about using the tarot to understand my problems is that it never overrides my choice. I always get to choose if I want to listen, I never have to fear being judged, I never have to do anything I don’t want to do. It’s only a touchstone, a way to check in with myself. If I decide today to do nothing about something I’ve learned, the message will still be there tomorrow when I am perhaps more able to get out of my way.