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Transcending Fear ~ Dancing Your Heart’s Song


We are sitting today at the threshold of unprecedented growth. Everything in the world as we know it to be is up to be transformed and transcended. Collectively we have entered the chrysalis stage of human development. At this point anything is possible. As we surrender our selves to this stage of transformation we must release the fear of no longer being as we formerly knew our selves to be. All of our ego identifications and ideals that belonged to our caterpillar selves must be surrendered to the new greater whole…and this feels risky.

Negotiating the Risk Factor

In actuality though, the risk is minimal. There is no real risk in evolution. In evolution things simply, almost imperceptibly, move to the next step. We either try to delay the process of evolution by focusing on what was and continue to uphold those old ideas or we learn to release our ego attachments and set our sights forward to the unknown potential of what is to come. It becomes a matter of looking forward or looking backwards, or more precisely, of looking outwards compared to looking deeply inwards. We tend to equate unknown with dangerous but this is only a projection of fear.

A very useful acronym for F.E.A.R is False. Experience. Appearing. Real. The experience is deemed false simply and truthfully because it hasn’t happened yet, so we actually project an outcome forward based on a negative past experience, which we assume makes it real because it happened a certain way in the past. Unfortunately, the error in the equation is that it doesn’t take into consideration all the awareness, skill and knowledge that has been learned between the old experience and the current time. All of these unacknowledged experiences have the power to create a completely new outcome. By laying the old expectation over the new possibility we create a future that mimics the patterns of the past – thereby ‘proving’ our fear to be valid. When we learn to view the future as a new adventure we get to co-create an entirely new possibility for ourselves.

A new mantra to use in place of the old acronym is Forgive. Everything. As. Required. Using this mantra whenever we feel the old emotional F.E.A.R. grab hold of our bodies and minds will serve to ‘re-mind’ us to leave the past in the past, forgive unconditionally what ever it is in us that wants to hold on to the past, and prompt us to let go without attachment for our highest good. Through forgiveness we may gratefully acknowledge the small part of us that is unsure, and yet in the same breath we can energize the visionary part of us that wants to move boldly forward toward the unknown.

Taking a Leap of Faith

In co-creation we solicit the assistance of the Divine Creative, the one with the plan. And I don’t mean the one being – I mean the one consciousness of which we are all part. In One consciousness we move into our perfect placement in the holistic holographic blueprint for humanity’s ever evolving nature. In Oneness, I simply do my part while everyone does his/her part. Ego and self-righteousness disappears in the perfection of the whole dynamic. While this is certainly happening already to a degree, the overall plan is currently reflecting distortions caused by individual attachments, control issues and fears. Through surrender to our mutual perfection we allow minute variations to occur which more accurately tune us into the right place, right time scenarios. The trick lies in being able to recognize the pivotal synergistic opportunities without projecting egotistical needs over top. To establish this clarity of intuition vs ego we need to make friends with our hearts. Love offers us the opposite vibration to fear.

The heart pulses out a frequency that is connected to and resonates with the sacred pulse of the universe and our earth. The Base Resonant frequency of Earth is our touchstone of reality that serves to keep us entrained in the harmonious working of all things great and small within our Universe. By releasing our minds from fear we are able to ‘keep up to speed’ with the quickening vibrational frequency of the Sacred Circuit of Universe>Earth>Heart>Cells. As our bodies are creating new cells by the second we allow our cellular construction to be built-in harmony with all that is; in new progressive programming instead of the old worn out tired and dis-eased programming of the past.

Stirrings of Light and Love

So here we sit, looking forward to a new day, or fearing the collapse of the old day. Truly this is a very apt comparison. We sit in the in between time between dark and light, we are in the dusk/dawn time of a new era. One era day is ending while a new one is simultaneously beginning. Trying to hold on to yesterday won’t help us and in fact puts us in a very surreal place of non-relevance. By keeping our attention on a day that has passed we cease being able to put our energies where they can be of assistance to the transition ahead. We lock ourselves into repetitive patterns, gradually becoming less and less effective; more and more jammed up, less and less able to hold the light of the new frequencies of the new era being birthed.

We are by nature visionary, and if you have been paying attention to your heart – even in the slightest, you’ll have noticed that in recent months you have been feeling somewhat dissatisfied (if not greatly frustrated) to be doing the same old same old. You are yearning for a new expression. Deep inside you are feeling the push/pull of something truly great wanting to come forward from within. A sacred resonance is being activated and you are at this point in the transformation only half-heartedly listening to your truth calling you forward. Your body, however, is desperately wanting to heed the insistent whisperings.

By attuning all of your attention to your heart you will begin to hear the transmissions of universal energy clearer and clearer. You will begin to move your body to dance with the rhythms of the universe. You will automatically be able to step into the right place and right timing to fill the position that is perfect. It may feel like a leap of faith when in truth it is only a step in the dance; the dance of your own creation for the highest good of all.

In the End It’s Still My Choice…All Things Considered


People have choice. It’s our birthright. We come to life and have the responsibility to make the choices in life that suit us. And that’s a blessing. I’m really glad that I get to make my own choices but I’m  also constantly surprised by how hard it is to make my own choices. In every choice I make I consider tons of people, issues and possibilities. And this is also our responsibility, to be actively conscious of the repercussions of our personal choices. As much as we are free agents we are still ultimately responsible to our partners, families, friends, community and consciousness on the whole. Heavy baggage!

It’s no wonder that we’ll grab opportunities to let someone else make our choices for us. Sometimes we just want a break. Letting someone else decide for us let’s us off the hook temporarily and it’s nice to feel looked after – like I said…temporarily. The way someone else makes choices, how they consider things, how they weigh the value of factors either appeals to us or doesn’t. It determines the success of our partnerships in business and marriage, it determines how well we play with others, it determines how well we raise our children.

Making decisions is a powerful responsibility. Invariably what we decide will also determine the fate of others. It can’t be helped. The quality of our life is determined by the quality of the decisions we make.  It becomes very important to know what you stand for. What are your morals, ethics and values about life? What do you condone, tolerate, and hold in esteem? If you can come to understand what is truly important to you and what is not, you will create a guideline for your life. When you have that it is much easier to know how to make your decisions.

Come to know where your weaknesses lie, where you need help in making decisions, where you need to trust others almost completely. Not choosing to decide is still a decision – probably one of the most important stands you’ll ever make. When we give all our power over to someone else to decide in our stead, we better be able to trust them implicitly. They hold our life in their hands and they better be strong enough to carry us. When we give that power to someone weaker than us we will surely fall. I’ve seen people choose to do exactly that just so they can ferociously lay blame and fault, not realizing that it was their own fault for giving up their right to choose.

In marriage we have to decide our decision-making roles. Do you like to be led, do you like to lead, do you need to need a partner with whom to hammer out solutions with? Or more likely it’s a mix of the three. Do you know over which issues you like to assume which hat? Do you realize what your emotional triggers are that ultimately drive the choices you make. I’ll give you a hint; fear and love are the driving forces behind all decisions. Making good choices depends directly on how willing and ready we are to look and accept the truth of a situation. If we are continuously making bad decisions with miserable outcomes we have to look at what our personal motivation is. Another hint: behind every bad decision lies a mountain of fear. It’s fascinating how blind to the mountain we can become.

The thing with making decisions is while we are dealing with very personal, close to the heart kind of decisions we also have to keep our eyes fixed on the greater good. There are usually people watching, waiting, knowing they are going to be influenced by your decision, usually our children, partners and co-workers, and they are learning. They are not just idly sitting by twiddling their thumbs. Based on how you make your choices they will learn how to make theirs. Where you are weak, they will be strong, where you are wobbly, they will learn to manipulate, where you waffle they will decide. Even in weakness you have responsibility, you just won’t have the power to look after your highest good!

We exert our power in our life through the decisions or lack of decisions we make. It’s your choice!